Being parents to school-goers can be a daunting task. With some pre-conceived notions and misconceptions we believe in, we make learning difficult for our kids. Here are some misconceptions we have listed out for all the parents to have a look at and introspect – if we are helping our kids to grow or otherwise.
1- Starting Education Early Hampers Life-Long Learning
Although there is a common thought among the parents & educationists across the nations that starting formal schooling at early age hampers life-long learning for the kids. But when we talk of education and learning, it isn’t only about formal schooling. Studies by various researchers in the field have proved that intelligence & learning abilities can be built upon by following right teaching techniques from very early age, as low as 9 months to 1 year. According to studies by Luby et al in 2013, IQ scores of children can be enhanced by instructing them in logic and critical thinking, also brain-shrinking stress in children can be protected by using sensitive and responsive techniques in parenting. Did you know, human brain develop fastest between birth and age 5 than any other time period during the entire lifespan? This is the time when the brain makes new connections and begins to maximize efficiency to keep or eliminate newly created connections. It is actually critical during this time that parents conduct educational exercises and provide continuous and repeated positive reinforcements that would help child’s brain to develop and accommodate new learning for the lifetime.
2- Educating the Child is School’s Job
As described in the previous paragraph, education or learning is a never-ending process that starts at a very early stage in our lives. Believing entirely in or relying just on formal schooling for education is the biggest misconception a parent can have. For the continuous and holistic growth of the children, the education should not start and stop within the school boundaries. In fact, children should be encouraged to learn from everyday activities. Practicing and developing social skills can be achieved by interacting with others; exposing kids to rich languages increases their vocabulary and reading abilities dramatically and we all know this can’t be achieved only by directed academic programs followed by formal schooling. It is essential for parents to encourage their children to learn through playing, hands-on activities, and exploration. This not only helps them in storing new information but also co-relate it with existing knowledge and thus develop cognitive abilities far better than gained just by relying on academic curriculum.
3- Being Excellent in Academics Bring Career Success
When we talk of teenagers, the academic pressure is not the only pressure they have to deal with. With their bodies undergoing physical & hormonal changes, they usually have to bear with constant nagging from parents about concentrating solely on academics. And this is mostly because of, one of the misconceptions that parents believe in–focusing only on and putting in efforts for academics would help their teenagers to achieve career success. However, educators, psychologists, psychiatrists and academicians have time and again proved to the world that being good solely in academics will do no good to a child. However, being average in academics and developing life skills through sports, music and other co-curricular activities help a child in shaping his/her career better. In today’s world, there is no dearth of career options and being successful in the career of one’s choice isn’t solely decided by the knowledge one gains by theories taught in school, but by the passion for excelling in same. We can see a number of examples worldwide who have proved this misconception wrong outrightly – Be it Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Elton John or A.R. Rahman to name a few.
4- Comparing Students With Peers Motivate Them
I wouldn’t say this one is a complete misconception, however, it is a lack of ability to judge ‘how much is too much’ at parent’s end which makes it alarming for a child. Parents indulge themselves into pressurizing their kids for doing great in academics based on the expectations set by others in the class/neighbor. However, it is very important to understand that every kid is different and the performance in academics is directly proportional to efforts put on the student’s shortcomings rather than comparing him/her with other high-performers in the class. Comparing your kids constantly with others will only result in increased peer pressure, which they already have to deal with. Comparing your kids with others occasionally might help in motivating them at times but surely hampers their will to do more and achieve when this comparison becomes habitual.
5- Having a Lots of Friends Distract
The thought that friends always distract students from studies is one of the biggest misconception parents have. It is due to this thought that parents try to restrict the ‘friends time’ to a minimum in a day’s schedule for the school-goers. However, this is a well-studied fact that learning is enhanced when done with peers. Friends help in learning as they can relate to materials with shared experiences, peers are familiar with each other’s ability to grasp concepts, and friends can provide each other with a comfort level that can help overcome anxieties, hindrances, and discouragements. Not only the academic growth of your child is dependent on the kind of and no. of friends one has, but the ability to learn life skills is increased multi-folds with friends around. Go ahead and ease-up that strict rule for your little ones now.
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Who doesn’t like to have a good set of friends to bank upon? Although making good friends is a herculean task in itself, but once done, it definitely worth the efforts. It’s friends who make our life enjoyable and make it more worthwhile. It’s them who spoil us with all the love and care, walk us through all the thick and thins of life, and brings us back on track by being the worst of critics for our deeds. Do you think it is not your cup of tea to initiate friendship? Or do you rely on the other person to extend the hand of friendship? We have a great news, you can make friends at any stage of your life and making friends is a social skill that can be honed over a period of time and with a little practice.
We’ll share with you some handy tips in this post that will help you choose the right friends in no time. So, sit back, be positive and enjoy reading
- Go Ahead and Do It
A lot of us do not go ahead and talk to people we like, just because we are scared of doing so. We are scared of our image in front of others, we are scared of how to carry the conversation, and we are scared of everything around it. The more skeptical you are, the more hesitant you become. The best way to break this never ending circle is to overcome your fears and go ahead and do the things rather than just thinking over it. So, next time you feel like having a cup of coffee with an acquaintance, don’t think over it too much – invite him/her over and you never know this might be the beginning of a great bond of friendship between you two.
- Don’t Fake it, Be Original- Be Yourself
There cannot be anything better than being chirpy and a go-getter when you are looking forward to making new friends, however a word of caution to keep in mind – You don’t have to fake something that you are not. You won’t want your newly formed friends to realize that you were faking being you all the time and eventually end up repelling your company. Being original and following what you really like is as equally important as avoiding being pretentious. Following what you love doing, gives you an opportunity to interact with like-minded people and there are greater chances of you making friends with them. Don’t think too much, just join the guitar classes you were holding back for a while, who knows you might make some really good friends over your guitar lessons.
- Put in Efforts to Know the Person Well
Friendship is not just about you, it is equally about the other person. Try to know the person well. Ask his/her likes and dislikes; know about their routine; help them with suggestions whenever asked for and so on. Also, if you have the acquaintance, grow it to friendship by constantly keeping in touch, hanging out together wherever possible and inviting them to events organized for friends by you. Don’t wait for the other person to approach you for befriending. Be proactive, if you think you two can make good friends, go ahead and talk, take the first step and a few subsequent ones too, if required. Don’t worry too much about being perceived as needy or being frowned at, take it in right spirits and with an attitude that you’ll not leave any stone unturned in your efforts to make some good friends.
- Be Open, Don’t Judge & Don’t Take it Personally
To make friends, always put your positive foot ahead and open up your heart. With open heart comes love, faith, trust and acceptance of the other person. Remember your positive attitude is the first step towards making the connection that will slowly and gradually develop into a strong & genuine relationship. It is very human to have some preconceived notions about strangers or acquaintances, but don’t let be too strong or it’ll hamper your chances of seeing the friendship bloom between you two. Judging a person based on what he/she is wearing, how he/she is conversing or what are his/her qualification would only narrow your scope of making and keeping good friends – Say a complete No! Also, it is very important to have faith in yourself and a feeling of ‘let it go’ if the person you want to be friends with is a little nonchalant about you – Don’t take it too personally, he/she might be genuinely busy with something else more important.
- Be Cheerful, Smile More Often
It is a proven fact that smile on your face adds more beauty and charm to your persona. Smile not only makes you happier person to look at, but also makes you more approachable for others. Smile more often and we are sure you’ll attract more people to be friends with you. Did you know, people who smile often are considered kinder, attractive and happier and thus have more chances of making friends in fewer attempts? Smile has a ripple effect, if you smile and spread the joy, you are more likely to receive even greater joy from others and increase your chances of finding good friends in them. If you are stressed out, it is more likely that you’ll not be able to reflect your true self in front of others. Take a few deep breaths and grin ear-to-ear once – You’ll surely feel de-stressed and now you are in much better mood to give yourself a fresh chance to make friends.
Always remember – you are great, smile more often and keep yourself open to others and the whole world is waiting to be your friends. Give it a try!!
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