This is a widespread fact that growing children, precisely adolescents, create a lot of havoc during parenting for their parents. Does that mean, we should alienate them to make our lives easy? Should we shut them up, everytime they come up with a weird request? Or we should keep treating them as kids and never let them act mature to save ourselves of the embarrassment? Today we’ll help you with the answers to all these questions and some more to help you introspect – if you are alienating your adolescents. Also, we’ll let you know of various other healthy practices (well, all don’t this time…) that you should follow with your kids to maintain a healthy relationship and avoid resilience in their behavior.
1- Don’t Threaten or Give Physical Punishments
While your kids are growing up, they make memories that lasts for their lifetime. You don’t want your kids to carry the scars on their shoulders throughout their life – Don’t punish them physically. Also, it is adolescence when the strongest emotional bonds are build up between you & your kids, you wouldn’t want to hamper that by continuously threatening them and punish them.
2- Don’t be Inconsistent in Your Behaviour
Teenagers are newly exposed to open world and start exploring the complexities, as well as they perceive most things in black & white at this stage. If you are inconsistent in your behaviour with them, for example, if you yell at them for a particular action one day and let it go unnoticed the other day; your kids get confused and panicky and would most likely not respond to you and trust you. Try being consistent with your list of acceptables and unacceptables and clear the repercussions to be more trustworthy with your growing kids.
3- Don’t Shame Them Publically
Like mentioned in the previous pointers, your words for your kids put an everlasting impression on them. These verbal communication help them frame their self-worth and confidence. If you constantly look down upon them and verbally put them down – you can imagine the harm you’ll be doing to your kids and your relationship with them. Don’t call them by insulting names and never shame them in public, instead talk it out with them one on one.
4- Don’t Nag Them
Appreciating the goods and giving feedback on not-so-good behaviour is expected out of every parent and your kids are ready for it too. But, being constantly after them and continuously following up on the problem areas and failures actually help you cross the thin line between caring and nagging. No one likes being nagged. Especially the teenagers have a tendency to retaliate and alienate themselves from the entire family.
5- Don’t Forget to Define Rules and Boundaries Clearly
Talking things out and discussing the concerns and questions your adolescents have should be encouraged. This is a new stage in their life and they might be experiencing the social independence probably for the first time. Rather than assuming that they should know the boundaries and rules expected by the adults of the family, let them know clearly. Don’t just punish them for breaking the rules that you never made them clear of. Getting grounded or punished for something that is presumed right in their own minds will infuriate them and result in alienation.
6- Don’t Look for Substitute to Your Time
We all struggle to strike that perfect balance between work & family and fail miserably at it most of the times. At times, to maintain the lifestyle that we have created for our family, we go a little overboard with work. This absolutely doesn’t mean that you can shower your teenager with money, gifts, games or movie tickets in lieu of your family time. Looking for substitute will only weaken your bond with your adolescents.
7- Don’t Intrude in Their Private Space
Do you like being followed, or kept eyes on? I am pretty sure you won’t like it, so does your teenagers. Nothing can be worse than your own parents violating your privacy or peeking into your personal stuff. Adolescent show a strong resentment if their private diaries are read or their conversations with peer are overheard, don’t do it if you want to keep a healthy relationship with your growing ones.
8- Don’t Compare Them with Their Siblings
Teenagers undergo a lot of peer pressure already, don’t add up to it by constantly comparing them to their peer, neighbors and siblings. If you constantly compare them to their better off siblings for every small and short mistakes, the teenager’s mind cements the negativity and start retaliating. Treat them as individuals and every individual differs, don’t force them to behave like their siblings in all the aspects of life.
9- Don’t Stop Them from Taking Decisions & Learn from Them
Since your teenagers have freshly tasted the social independence, encourage them to set some rules and adhere to those to make them learn responsibility. Discuss home issues with them to know their say, involve them into as many things you can, so that they feel loved and capable of taking decisions that would be good for the entire family.
10- Don’t Hesitate to Say Sorry for Your Mistakes
The last thing to do as a parent is to keep sticking to your ego and not uttering ‘Sorry’ even after you realize you were at fault with your adolescent. It’s a powerful word and helps in reconciliation and building up the bond between you and your teenager.
We hope you are working on most of the pointers written above to keep up with changing moods and requirements of your growing kid. If not, please start following the basic rules of thumb. Start including your teenagers more in your day-to-day life so that they don’t feel alienated. Tell us the methods that worked for you best in the comment section below.
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On this occasion, let us share a story with you –
The story is about a child who wanted to do something, he had lots of dreams. Dreams to do great things, but he couldn’t figure out how. He simply didn’t know where to start, he saw a lot of challenges and didn’t know how to solve. He stumbles upon a man who hears his story and gives him a solution…”I can help you” he says. “You need guidance, you need someone to show you the way. You need a Teacher”.
And so this man teaches the child where to start, how to go about solving things, educates him of stuff to learn, instill him with essential values and shows him the path to achieve his aim.
The boy who started off as clueless being was now booming with confidence, renewed enthusiasm and sense of direction. Needless to say, he achieves his dreams! That’s what a teacher does!
You must be wondering – Why this story? Well, it’s a story about us – You and Vedantu. Wondering who’s the student…..No, its not You, it’s V the Vedans!!! And you are our teacher!!
What started as an attempt to create a platform where we can connect teachers and students, has come a long way in disrupting the very way in which teaching and learning is perceived. You all have been invaluable contributors in this evolution. And on this occasion let us take the opportunity to thank you, our teacher, without whom nothing would have been possible. – A Big Thank You to All of You!!!
It’s not that we Vedans only work and never party…instead, we work hard and party harder!
Here are a few glimpse of Vedans partying and celebrating the milestone –
Memorizing all day and not able to recall same when it is most needed, would be the last thing you would want happening to you. It is very important for us humans and specially students to have a memory of grandmaster to excel in our lives. We are here with 10 simple yet strong tips to help you improve your memory and trick your brain to memorize more and recall information quickly.
- Do Some Exercise
Our brain is like a machine, the better maintenance we do, the less wear and tear we see. For the well functional brain and better maintenance of the machinery, it is very important to exercise. Studies have revealed that a 20mins exercise can dramatically improve your brain power and memory. You know now, the best thing to do before your examination start – walk atleast 20mins and you’ll see improvement in your performance.
- Have Proper Sleep on the Night Before Exams
Sleeping is very important for your brain functionalities. For a better memory, it is highly advisable to atleast take a power nap of 40-45mins. The nap offers enough time for the brain to assimilate all the learning and move it to brain’s long-term memory storage – hippocampus. Sleeping also improves retrieval of information stored in your brain and thus you don’t have to put that extra effort to recall the difficult-to-remember history dates or irky mathematics formulae
- Take Regular Breaks
Taking short breaks during your study hours is always advisable – it helps you concentrate and retain the learning for a longer time. While we say take breaks, we literally mean breaks and not distraction. SMSs, emails, and checking your social accounts are complete distraction. Instead, we would suggest you to lie down, listen to your favorite music and relax for a while.
- Read Aloud to Yourself
What we have learned from our elders is to read and doing it again and again is the key to memorize something. We just want to add our five cents – reading out aloud to yourself fetches you far great results than just reading it repeatedly. When we read, we use only visual pathway to make the memory, but when we read aloud, we add the auditory pathway as well. Thus, reading aloud has reinforced pathways to our memory and help us retain the learning for a longer duration.
- Practice & Practice Some More
Try solving as many problems you can before exams and don’t forget to keep a tap on your timings – this prepares your brain to search for relevant information & retrieve them in no time when needed. Try solving previous year question papers and create exam-like situations – This will help your brain to understand your abilities to respond to the stress and retrieve the information quickly.
- Use Flashcards to Aid Your Memory
Flashcards are small cards with information to be memorized written on them. These cards are especially useful in memorizing names, dates, definitions, equations, formulas and vocabulary words. Flashcards work on improving your memory via quick and regular review of the information shared on them.
- Create Mental Maps and Brain Dumps
A mental map is a visual representation of all the thoughts related to a main idea, preferably drawn by hands for organizing and understanding information. This works very well in enhancing your memory as the idea to be memorized is correlated to various well-memorized stuffs, it includes thorough understanding of the concepts, involves creativity and has visual pathway to your memory. Mental maps make it easier for your brain to create connections between the information and recall it quickly.
- Teach What You Have Learned
When you try to teach what you have learned, you need thorough understanding of the concepts, when you understand something thoroughly, it becomes easy for your brain to recall it. Teaching is thus considered as one of the best tools for cementing our learning and memory.
- Revise for Better Output
Re-reading the concepts just a couple of hours before you head for the examinations, recapitulate it and helps your brain retrieve it from the hippocampus. This re-reading is also stored afresh in your brain’s prefrontal cortex and makes it easier to recall during the examination.
Practicing meditation has been called the best way to de-stress and concentrate. Studies have also found that meditation changes the functions and physical structures of your brain positively – it helps in increasing the attention span, improved memory and sharpen the focus.
We know it for sure, these 10 tips, when followed religiously, will help you overcome the concerns with bad memory, forgetfulness and lack of attention and will give you a Grandmaster`s Memory. Don’t forget to share your own tips to increase the memory in the comment section below.
We at Vedantu are delighted to announce that we have been backed by $5M Series A funding from Accel Partners and Tiger Global. We thank the folks at Accel and Tiger for believing in the vision of Vedantu and in partnering with us on our mission to make education more personalized and democratic.
We take this opportunity to thank all our students and their parents who have put their trust with us and have been superbly supportive of our initiatives. We are innovating like never before and building a far better teaching and learning experience on Vedantu. So just keep an eye out for some big updates 🙂
Backing from two of the biggest names in global VC industry is a huge confidence booster for all of us. This funding will allow us to expand our team and accelerate the innovation efforts at Vedantu to make Live Online 1-to-1 Tutoring the most effective mode of teaching and learning possible. To establish people’s trust by making them aware of the immense potential that lies in Live 1-to-1 Tutoring and in-turn bringing a revolution in the way we teach and learn is vedantu’s long term endeavour.
We are super excited about our journey and just can`t stop thinking about the awesomeness which lies ahead. That sheer thrill of possibilities….
We won`t stop, won`t rest till we achieve this goal.
Wohoo!! We recently went past 1000 hrs of learning on vedantu which makes us super proud and of course marks an important milestone in our journey. It goes a long way in validating our strong belief in the effectiveness of Live 1-to-1 Tutoring and its potential to disrupt the way teaching – learning happens in the world.
With increase in usage we are now able to capture and analyse a lot of minute user insights more effectively, which drives us to continuously evolve towards building a groundbreaking teaching and learning experience.
What excites us the most is the kind of stories Vedantu is empowering each day. From making learning much more personalised for a student who couldn’t grasp concepts in a crowded classroom to connecting a student in a remote part of the country with an awesome teacher – the stories are awe inspiring. This is what keeps us moving at feverish pace each and every moment.
We have tried to capture how 1000 hours have panned out on Vedantu with an infographic. Have a look 🙂
We truly believe that Vedantu is onto something really big. We believe that Vedantu, at one end, will be instrumental in making learning a really engaging and personal experience, and at other end will be instrumental in creating awesome teachers out of normal human beings who just love to share knowledge. A revolution which will democratise knowledge in true sense.