How to be Great at Making FriendsPosted: September 1, 2015
Who doesn’t like to have a good set of friends to bank upon? Although making good friends is a herculean task in itself, but once done, it definitely worth the efforts. It’s friends who make our life enjoyable and make it more worthwhile. It’s them who spoil us with all the love and care, walk us through all the thick and thins of life, and brings us back on track by being the worst of critics for our deeds. Do you think it is not your cup of tea to initiate friendship? Or do you rely on the other person to extend the hand of friendship? We have a great news, you can make friends at any stage of your life and making friends is a social skill that can be honed over a period of time and with a little practice.
We’ll share with you some handy tips in this post that will help you choose the right friends in no time. So, sit back, be positive and enjoy reading
- Go Ahead and Do It
A lot of us do not go ahead and talk to people we like, just because we are scared of doing so. We are scared of our image in front of others, we are scared of how to carry the conversation, and we are scared of everything around it. The more skeptical you are, the more hesitant you become. The best way to break this never ending circle is to overcome your fears and go ahead and do the things rather than just thinking over it. So, next time you feel like having a cup of coffee with an acquaintance, don’t think over it too much – invite him/her over and you never know this might be the beginning of a great bond of friendship between you two.
- Don’t Fake it, Be Original- Be Yourself
There cannot be anything better than being chirpy and a go-getter when you are looking forward to making new friends, however a word of caution to keep in mind – You don’t have to fake something that you are not. You won’t want your newly formed friends to realize that you were faking being you all the time and eventually end up repelling your company. Being original and following what you really like is as equally important as avoiding being pretentious. Following what you love doing, gives you an opportunity to interact with like-minded people and there are greater chances of you making friends with them. Don’t think too much, just join the guitar classes you were holding back for a while, who knows you might make some really good friends over your guitar lessons.
- Put in Efforts to Know the Person Well
Friendship is not just about you, it is equally about the other person. Try to know the person well. Ask his/her likes and dislikes; know about their routine; help them with suggestions whenever asked for and so on. Also, if you have the acquaintance, grow it to friendship by constantly keeping in touch, hanging out together wherever possible and inviting them to events organized for friends by you. Don’t wait for the other person to approach you for befriending. Be proactive, if you think you two can make good friends, go ahead and talk, take the first step and a few subsequent ones too, if required. Don’t worry too much about being perceived as needy or being frowned at, take it in right spirits and with an attitude that you’ll not leave any stone unturned in your efforts to make some good friends.
- Be Open, Don’t Judge & Don’t Take it Personally
To make friends, always put your positive foot ahead and open up your heart. With open heart comes love, faith, trust and acceptance of the other person. Remember your positive attitude is the first step towards making the connection that will slowly and gradually develop into a strong & genuine relationship. It is very human to have some preconceived notions about strangers or acquaintances, but don’t let be too strong or it’ll hamper your chances of seeing the friendship bloom between you two. Judging a person based on what he/she is wearing, how he/she is conversing or what are his/her qualification would only narrow your scope of making and keeping good friends – Say a complete No! Also, it is very important to have faith in yourself and a feeling of ‘let it go’ if the person you want to be friends with is a little nonchalant about you – Don’t take it too personally, he/she might be genuinely busy with something else more important.
- Be Cheerful, Smile More Often
It is a proven fact that smile on your face adds more beauty and charm to your persona. Smile not only makes you happier person to look at, but also makes you more approachable for others. Smile more often and we are sure you’ll attract more people to be friends with you. Did you know, people who smile often are considered kinder, attractive and happier and thus have more chances of making friends in fewer attempts? Smile has a ripple effect, if you smile and spread the joy, you are more likely to receive even greater joy from others and increase your chances of finding good friends in them. If you are stressed out, it is more likely that you’ll not be able to reflect your true self in front of others. Take a few deep breaths and grin ear-to-ear once – You’ll surely feel de-stressed and now you are in much better mood to give yourself a fresh chance to make friends.
Always remember – you are great, smile more often and keep yourself open to others and the whole world is waiting to be your friends. Give it a try!!
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